Strike, Dear Mistress, and Cure His Heart


I don’t know how many people outside Croatia know that on December the 1st, my country (i.e. Croatia) will be voting on whether to enter a highly discriminatory sentence into our Constitution. Almost 700.000 people signed for this abomination to take place. Once again, we are playing judge, jury and executioner in something that deserves no judging, no jury, and it most definitely deserves no execution.

Shiny, shiny, shiny boots of leather
Whiplash girlchild in the dark

I want to write about unreasonable fear of that which is different. I want to write about cultural necessity to judge the world and its people against yourself. I want to write about taking a gander at things from a human perspective, not from a heterosexual perspective, not from Christian/Atheist/Religious perspective. Human perspective. Perspective of love and understanding. If people learned how to do this, the only judging would be done in a court room, the one place where it belongs.

Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather
Shiny leather in the dark

People who want to eliminate differences are not very reasonable. You’re heterosexual, and as such you wish to have sex with someone diametrically opposite of yourself, biologically different . Maybe you are afraid of the opposite sex, and therefore you also fear those of opposite sexual orientation? Maybe you are incapable of understanding your own sexual desires towards the opposite sex, that you have to judge a man who is completely comfortable wanting to have sex with another man?

Tongue of thongs, the belt that does await you
Strike, dear mistress, and cure his heart

Whether it’s heterosexual or homosexual intercourse, it seems to me there is a lot of people who still have a problem with sex, and any kind of deviation from the “missionary” position (male and female reproduction organs, lights off and other “normal” and “natural” stuff included).

Taste the whip, in love not given lightly
Taste the whip, now plead for me

Adoption is also a problem, because gay parents a) will raise a gay child (and we are afraid of gay  people); b) are a reason why a child will be bullied and tortured by its peers. Very sound reasoning isn’t it? I wonder, a) how come there are gay people who are the fruit of heterosexual loins and upbringing? Don’t you think that, if we as parents and a society, stopped raising our children to hate and fear that which is different b) there would be no bullying and torture of children who have gay parents. Maybe, just maybe, if we taught our young ones that it is ok to be different (because we are all different) and that it’s wrong to bully anyone for any reason, then we wouldn’t have this impediment to adoption by same-sex partners?

I don’t believe family and marriage are about the number of parents, about their sex, religious orientation or political ideals. They are about the quality of love.

Severin, Severin, speak so slightly
Severin, down on your bended knee

But all that aside, I hope and believe that Croatia will decide against constitutionally defining marriage as a union between a man and a woman. Because, even though I am not a part of any Church, I am a believer, maybe of the most naive sort. I believe in people.

*Title/Lyrics: Velvet Underground, Venus in Furs

Russian Winter Triumphs over Olympism?

Maybe you’ve heard of something called the Olympic Charter? Well, it is the codification of the Fundamental Principles of Olympism, apparently.  The Principles tell us that Olympism is a philosophy of life, that is “seeks to create a way of life based on the joy of effort, the educational value of good example, social responsibility and respect for universal fundamental ethical principles.” It’s goal is tois to place sport at the service of the harmonious development of humankind, with a view to promoting a peaceful society concerned with the preservation of human dignity.”

And my favourite:

Any form of discrimination with regard to a country or a person on grounds of race, religion, politics, gender or otherwise is incompatible with belonging to the Olympic Movement.

Stephen Fry at a protest in London over gay rights in Russia. Photograph: Anthony Devlin/PA
Stephen Fry at a protest in London over gay rights in Russia. Photograph: Anthony Devlin/PA (source:

Allow me to state a few more facts.

August 9th

The International Olympic Committee is waiting for more clarifications from the Russian government on the anti-gay law that is overshadowing preparations for the Winter Games in Sochi, IOC President Jacques Rogge said Friday.

August 16th

The United States Olympic Committee, seemingly backtracking on an earlier statement – and now outright contradicting the International Olympic Committee – says Russia’s draconian new anti-gay law is inconsistent with fundamental Olympic principles.

August 22nd

Russia has given assurances its anti-gay “propaganda” law will not affect the Winter Olympics, says International Olympic Committee chief Jacques Rogge.

The International Olympic Committee (IOC) has released a statement saying it is content with the reassurances given by Russia over an anti-gay law signed in June for the Sochi 2014 Winter Olympics.

August 23rd

A decree banning demonstrations and rallies has been signed by Russian President Vladimir Putin, and will take place over the duration of the Sochi 2014 Winter Olympics.

I think Freddie wants a word with you.

I had a dream
When I was young
A dream of sweet illusion
A glimpse of hope and unity
And visions of one sweet union
But a cold wind blows
And a dark rain falls
And in my heart it shows
Look what they’ve done to my dreams

Today, I’m Feeling Very Heterosexual


I was four, I think, when I realized that I was a girl. I’d just hit a boy who was trying to hit me. I was berated by my kindergarten teacher because that was not the way girls behaved. I got a lot of that growing up and it was considered not very feminine of me to fight back. Messed up my identity, that did.

Similarly, I have never considered myself a heterosexual until I was forced to realize that there was a difference between me and „them“, that I have rights the members of the LGBT community do not have.

Today, I’m feeling very heterosexual, because I cannot begin to imagine how it feels to have ten thousands of your countrymen (and women) trying to legally abolish your right to love whomever you want. I don’t know how it feels to see smiling faces of young volunteers, going door to door, asking for support to ban you as a person, to prevent you to fully realize yourself and to have a life that you deserve.

Yes, I am feeling very heterosexual today…

 Edit: I’m appealing to you, if it’s something you believe in, to sign this petition for marriage equality in Croatia.