Strike, Dear Mistress, and Cure His Heart


I don’t know how many people outside Croatia know that on December the 1st, my country (i.e. Croatia) will be voting on whether to enter a highly discriminatory sentence into our Constitution. Almost 700.000 people signed for this abomination to take place. Once again, we are playing judge, jury and executioner in something that deserves no judging, no jury, and it most definitely deserves no execution.

Shiny, shiny, shiny boots of leather
Whiplash girlchild in the dark

I want to write about unreasonable fear of that which is different. I want to write about cultural necessity to judge the world and its people against yourself. I want to write about taking a gander at things from a human perspective, not from a heterosexual perspective, not from Christian/Atheist/Religious perspective. Human perspective. Perspective of love and understanding. If people learned how to do this, the only judging would be done in a court room, the one place where it belongs.

Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather
Shiny leather in the dark

People who want to eliminate differences are not very reasonable. You’re heterosexual, and as such you wish to have sex with someone diametrically opposite of yourself, biologically different . Maybe you are afraid of the opposite sex, and therefore you also fear those of opposite sexual orientation? Maybe you are incapable of understanding your own sexual desires towards the opposite sex, that you have to judge a man who is completely comfortable wanting to have sex with another man?

Tongue of thongs, the belt that does await you
Strike, dear mistress, and cure his heart

Whether it’s heterosexual or homosexual intercourse, it seems to me there is a lot of people who still have a problem with sex, and any kind of deviation from the “missionary” position (male and female reproduction organs, lights off and other “normal” and “natural” stuff included).

Taste the whip, in love not given lightly
Taste the whip, now plead for me

Adoption is also a problem, because gay parents a) will raise a gay child (and we are afraid of gay  people); b) are a reason why a child will be bullied and tortured by its peers. Very sound reasoning isn’t it? I wonder, a) how come there are gay people who are the fruit of heterosexual loins and upbringing? Don’t you think that, if we as parents and a society, stopped raising our children to hate and fear that which is different b) there would be no bullying and torture of children who have gay parents. Maybe, just maybe, if we taught our young ones that it is ok to be different (because we are all different) and that it’s wrong to bully anyone for any reason, then we wouldn’t have this impediment to adoption by same-sex partners?

I don’t believe family and marriage are about the number of parents, about their sex, religious orientation or political ideals. They are about the quality of love.

Severin, Severin, speak so slightly
Severin, down on your bended knee

But all that aside, I hope and believe that Croatia will decide against constitutionally defining marriage as a union between a man and a woman. Because, even though I am not a part of any Church, I am a believer, maybe of the most naive sort. I believe in people.

*Title/Lyrics: Velvet Underground, Venus in Furs